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FIELD GUIDE / 06

Social media & group chats

Handle pile-ons, pressure, oversharing, and the feeling that you can never log off.

FOR: Students using—or asking to use—social and messaging apps

DO THIS FIRST

Take back some control.

  1. 01

    Mute noisy groups and nonessential notifications. Leaving attention on demand is not a membership requirement.

  2. 02

    Review privacy, mention, tagging, message, and comment settings with someone you trust.

  3. 03

    Block and report harassment, impersonation, sexual messages, and accounts that keep contacting you after being told to stop.

  4. 04

    Save evidence before leaving a harmful group or deleting messages.

  5. 05

    Tell a trusted adult when a chat includes threats, sexual pressure, blackmail, stalking, or plans to hurt someone.

FOR STUDENTS

No shame. Just the next move.

  • You can leave a group, silence notifications, or take an app off your phone without making a public announcement.
  • Before posting, ask: Would I be okay with this reaching a teacher, coach, family member, or future me?
  • If a friend shares something dangerous, getting adult help is protection—not betrayal.

FOR PARENTS

Contain first. Debrief later.

  • Talk about specific situations before opening the settings menu. Rules make more sense when children know what problem they solve.
  • Avoid confiscating the device as the automatic result of disclosure. It can teach children to hide the next problem.
  • Create overnight charging and notification boundaries that adults follow too.

TRUSTED NEXT STOPS

Official help and reporting.

Reviewed September 24, 2026. External guidance changes; confirm time-sensitive steps on the linked official site.

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